il giorno del ringraziamento.

This Thanksgiving was the weirdest, most unique, most stressful and most beautiful of my life.

Let me tell you about it.

Last year was my first Thanksgiving away from family, but I spent it with my "family away from family" in Rome. This year, I journeyed to Bologna to revisit some people I met during my first trip to the city and at a retreat with my friend's church up there. Last year (and every other year of my life) I celebrated this excuse to eat an unreasonable amount of food with only Americans. This year, I was the only American there.

Let's start at the very beginning (it's a very good place to start, after all).

Knowing that I would be in Bologna on Thanksgiving day, my fabulous friend (who is Colombian but lived her preteen through college years in Miami and just married an Italian in October) planned a party with two small groups from her church that consisted of all Italians except for a Scottish guy, her and me. Which would mean that I would be the only full-blooded American (U.S.A., U.S.A., U.S....Ok I'm stopping) there. Which I was really excited about!

Upon my arrival, my friend informed me that we would be making the turkey. That's right. My very first time making a turkey! It was also my friend's very first time making a turkey... (Are you seeing why "most stressful" might have been included in that opening sentence?). 

So on Thanksgiving morning, my friend and I took a 45-minute bus ride into the city center to pick up "Lola" (We were about to get very intimate. She needed a name). We wheeled our little rolling shopping cart thing (the one all the old ladies take to the grocery store around here) along the cobblestoned streets to the meat shop. We passed by the pancetta and chicken (as well as the pig's feet and goat's head) and asked for the turkey she had ordered. Then out come two fresh, ready-to-be-cooked turkeys. We weighed our options (literally...two Italian men held the bodies like babies and hosted them each onto the scale. We went with the big one). After making our decision, the "macellaio" wrapped up our bird (twice, because her legs busted right out of the first bag), and we put her 17-pound (8 kg) body in our "carrello" and wheeled her to the bus stop. Of course, we had to make a pitstop to get some fresh pumpkin ravioli and pumpkin gnocchi to make for lunch and then went to the main piazza to take a few quick pictures, all with Lola in tow. 

When we got back to my friend's apartment, we ate our pasta (SO. GOOD.) and took a good look at the recipe for the turkey. We started by plucking off some feathers that had been left behind. Then we rinsed her off a bit. Then we rubbed her with the butter/sage/rosemary/pancetta concoction the recipe called for (all while taking deep breaths amidst high-pitched squeals of "Eww"). Then we stuffed a stick of butter and fresh rosemary and sage up her butt (or "inside the main cavity," in turkey-recipe jargon). Then we stuffed her in the oven (quite forcibly, because she very nearly didn't fit).

And then we started to get paranoid. We didn't have a meat thermometer. What if it didn't cook all the way and we gave everybody Salmonella? Was three hours really enough time? Tent with foil? What does that mean?? Were we supposed to do that at the beginning or end? Was the skin supposed to kind of bubble up like that?

So we ended up taking the turkey in and out, in and out, tenting her with foil then taking it off, rotating her in the oven, checking to see if she was done by basically lacerating her in several places. 

But alas. Four hours passed. And she wasn't done. 

That's when my friend's husband came home and told us we had the oven on the wrong setting and she hadn't been cooking properly/efficiently/whatever. So back in the oven she went, dooming us to a delayed departure. But fortunately the two casserole dishes of mashed potatoes, pan of cornbread and tray of pumpkin muffins were all ready to go.

Then, finally, she seemed to reach a state of golden, not-too-dry-and-definitely-not-raw perfection. But the gravy! We hurried to whip up this essential condiment. But my ill-timed addition of extra flavor left it nothing short of chunky. So, in a state of near-panic, my friend Facetimed her mom (in Spanish), who told us to try putting it in the blender. It seemed relatively cohesive and "abbastanza" gravy-like after that.

So everything was finally ready! All we had to do was juggle the decorations, the potatoes, the cornbread, the muffins, the pitcher of gravy and the ginormous turkey between the three of us and get it all situated in the car.

But we finally made it to the party! An hour later than expected, but we still weren't the last ones there.

And what a beautiful Thanksgiving party it was! Not only was Lola a hit, but it was such a blessing to see people again and meet some new people as well. 

And this group of Italians taught this American girl the true meaning of Thanksgiving.

Seriously. There was so much more intentionality to it all. Typically my family just eats. I mean, of course we enjoy being together and say a prayer before the meal to thank God for blessing us throughout the year. But at this party, not only did we do that, but after we had eaten, one of the guys basically just shared the gospel (using a clip from the Big Bang Theory. Genius.) and then a few people shared what they were thankful for.

Some things were pretty typical (one couple was having a baby, some said they were thankful for that community of friends, one guy said he was thankful to live in a country with more freedom and safety than many others). 

But one guy said it was good to also reflect on the truly difficult times. The trials. The pain. The dry seasons. 

Because during the struggle, in our desperation, we get the joy of seeing God's provision. Because when we reach the end of ourselves and we realize how much we truly need Him, we cry out for help and we are more thankful when He does meet our needs, because it is inescapably clear that it is His hand...that He -- The Lord -- has done it (Psalm 109:26-27).

It's easy to take things for granted if we feel okay...fine...full...satisfied (enough). Kind of like the way maybe I don't appreciate my Nanny's amazing cooking as much as I would if I had gone without food for a few days...As it is, I just feel so absolutely stuffed from lunch at my Grammy's house that it's hard to truly appreciate the extravagant, wonderful meal set before me at dinner (yes, back in the U.S. I am spoiled rotten by two amazing meals on Thanksgiving).

I like these lyrics from "Great Things (Worth It All)" by Elevation Worship:

Thank You for the wilderness
Where I learned to thirst for Your presence
If I'd never known that place
How could I have known You are better?

We avoid hard times like the plague, but maybe we should embrace them. Even if the situation is painful and exhausting and heartbreaking...it can bring us (almost paradoxically) to a place of true joy...of understanding what it means to be truly thankful...and to be truly thankful for the only Thing that is constant and wholly good. Only then -- when all the "gifts" are stripped away -- are we able to be thankful for the Gift-giver Himself. We are able to love and enjoy Him for Him, and not just for what He gives us.

Something to chew on.

So that was my Thanksgiving Day this year. Then I went up to Turin to celebrate (again) with two American families up there and hug them all goodbye for the last time in who knows how long. (As my friend said, very profoundly and accurately, "Goodbyes suck.")

These were some of the first real, final (for now, anyway) goodbyes. Yup. These last few weeks are going to be rough. Okay, I can't. I'll save the emotion for another blog post when I'm blubbering through my final days here and/or reverse culture shock. For now, here are some pictures of my (two) Thanksgiving(s):

Love from Rome,

Elizabeth 

Il mio mestiere è creare.

"I must create a system or be enslaved by another man's; I will not reason or compare: my business is to create."

I've always loved that quote by William Blake.

Okay, "always" is an overstatement. I've really liked that quote since I first heard it in P.S. I Love You. (I wish I could say I first encountered it when I was actually reading William Blake in college, but alas...a tearjerker chick flick beat Brit Lit II to the punch.)

Anyway, yeah..."My business is to create." As an Art major, I really liked that idea. It was encouraging to think that whatever I ended up "doing with my life," creativity in some capacity would be involved. (And like Holly says in P.S. I Love You, "it doesn't matter if it's a work of art or a taco or a pair of socks...just create something...")

[As a side note, that movie is actually a very interesting and in-depth look at the grieving process, and oddly enough I happened to have been watching it (in Italian...language practice...merely language practice...) the day before I got the news about Kyra. I watched it again soon after and now I can relate to it in a different way. As a friend said recently about losing someone, you just don't fully understand until you're punched in the face by the personal experience of it. Then you're like "Oh. That's what it feels like. Crap."]

As those of you who have been keeping up with me throughout this entire journey already know, my original job description when I came to Italy involved working in a non-profit art gallery. And if you've been reading this blog for the past two years, you also know that it closed shortly after I arrived in Rome due to lack of funding and personnel changes. So, through this "loss" and many other discrepancies between expectation and reality, God has been teaching me about submission and flexibility and trusting His will even when I don't understand it. 

[Other examples have included being delayed three months because of visa issues, my supervisor telling me he was leaving in three weeks as he was rolling one of my suitcases into my apartment complex for the first time, and our original landlord deciding to sell the apartment we were renting just after I had finally unpacked and started to settle in.]  

None of that was what I expected. But I think my experience here has been just as good (if not better!) in spite of (or because of!) each of those changes. So, my new supervisor and his family became like family to me, I felt at home in our new apartment, and I happily settled into my new role that focused more on teaching English and being more involved in my Italian church. At that point, I had just more or less set my passion for art aside, assuming I wouldn't really have an opportunity to create while I was over here.

But plot twist! 

My pastor came to another lady in my church and me with an idea. We were in the middle of a series of discussions on Tim Keller's The Reason for God. Each month, we met in a coffee shop and discussed a chapter, working through questions like "Can there really be just one true religion?" and "How could a good God allow suffering?" and "Has science disproved Christianity?" So, he had this idea of using art to talk about one of these chapters. The chapter he had in mind is called "The Clues of God."

I loved the idea, and immediately the proverbial wheels started turning. How does God demonstrate Himself to us in the world? It's a theme I've enjoyed exploring in the months since Leo suggested doing this art show.

The act of creating is a joy and privilege. Having this art show to work towards was an even greater blessing after losing Kyra. Much of the subject matter of the show changed after her death, inspiring three new paintings and changing my perspective on all the others. 

[Sometimes I think about what she would say if she knew there are two paintings hanging in a coffee shop right now that are meant to depict her...her life, her faith and her love for others. She would probably think it was ridiculous. But these paintings about her helped me process my grief over losing her. Working on them helped me say goodbye to her in a way. And hopefully they will help many people remember how beautifully she radiated Christ's love...that God demonstrated Himself to us in the world through her life.]

So here are some of the paintings. And below is my artist's statement. And Courtney took photos and is going to make a little video too, so hopefully I can share that with you soon as well.

I am many things.

American. Artist. Traveller. Writer. Teacher. Daughter. Sister. Friend.

But above all these things, my true identity is in Christ. I am a Christian. And this affects all the other things about me.

He is my Hope. My Anchor. My Compass. My Captain.

He is also the lens through which I see the world. My faith affects my perspective on everything. I believe God reveals himself to us in the world, if we would only have eyes to see and ears to hear.

He leaves traces. Hints. Clues.

I see Him in the vastness of the Earth and the beautiful diversity of cultures and individual people, because I believe He created the largest planet in the solar system and the smallest atom in the tiniest microorganism. I see Him in a husband’s love for his wife, because I believe the church is the bride of Christ. I see Him in a father cradling and delighting in his child, because God is my Heavenly Father. I even see Him in the brokenness in the world, because it reminds me that only He can heal and satisfy and that this world is not really our home.

I also see Him in other people whose identity is in Him. I’ve encountered few people who reflected Christ so vividly as Kyra Karr. All of us who knew and loved her were devastated when we heard about the car accident and that she didn’t make it. Her death truly rattled me, making me more aware of the uncertainty, frailty and brevity of life. But more than anything, her death made me reflect on her life…how she lived it to the glory of God and how it has impacted my own. So the series about hospitality is for her, because she had the gift of hospitality and she used it to love and bless others. The “Colors” painting is also for her, because she was a “color…[who brought] glory to the Light.”

I love art. I love to create. It is a cathartic release and a small miracle turn an idea and a blank canvas into something beautiful and meaningful. I hope that even in this I could reflect the Ultimate Creator…that the colors of these paintings would bring glory to the Light.

Thank you for looking at these paintings. My prayer is that from now on you might be more inclined to see God in your day-to-day life. That you might be inspired to consider His existence….to consider getting to know Him…

To consider the possibility that He could not only exist, but be Creator, Sustainer, Redeemer and Friend.

Sono tante cose.

Americana. Artista. Viaggiatrice. Scrittrice. Insegnante. Figlia. Sorella. Amica.

Ma, innanzitutto, la mia identità è in Cristo. Sono cristiana. E questo influisce su tutta me stessa.

Lui è la mia Speranza. La mia Ancora. La mia Bussola. Il mio Capitano.

Lui è anche la lente attraverso cui vedo il mondo. La mia fede determina la mia prospettiva su ogni cosa. Credo che Dio si riveli a noi nel mondo, se solo abbiamo occhi per vederlo e orecchie per sentirlo.

Ci lascia tracce. Accenni. Indizi.

Lo vedo nella vastità del mondo e nella magnifica diversità delle culture e degli individui, perché credo che Lui abbia creato il pianeta più grande del sistema solare, e anche l’atomo più piccolo del più minuscolo microrganismo. Lo vedo nell’amore di un marito per sua moglie, perché credo che la Chiesa sia la sposa di Cristo. Lo vedo in un padre quando culla amorevolmente il suo bambino, perché Dio è il mio Padre Celeste. Posso anche vederLo nella devastazione del mondo, perché mi ricorda che solo Lui può curare e appagare e che questo mondo non è veramente casa nostra.

Lo vedo anche nelle altre persone che hanno trovato la loro identità in Cristo. Ne ho incontrate poche che sono state il riflesso di Cristo così vividamente come lo è stata Kyra Karr. Tutti noi che la conoscevamo e amavamo siamo rimasti totalmente sconvolti quando abbiamo sentito dell’incidente stradale e che lei non ce l’aveva fatta. La sua morte mi ha veramente scossa, mi ha resa più consapevole dell’incertezza, della fragilità e della brevità della vita. Ma, soprattutto, la sua morte mi ha fatta riflettere sulla sua vita…come la viveva per la gloria di Dio e quale impatto ha avuto sulla mia. Così la serie sull’ospitalità è per Kyra, perché aveva il dono dell’ospitalità e perché l’ha usato per amare e benedire gli altri. Anche il quadro dei “Colori” è per lei, perché era un “colore che ha reso gloria alla Luce.”

Amo l’arte. Adoro creare. È una liberazione catartica e un piccolo miracolo trasformare un’idea e una tela bianca in qualcosa di bellissimo e significativo. Spero che anche in questo io possa riflettere il Sommo Creatore…che i colori di queste opere possano rendere gloria alla Luce.

Grazie per aver guardato questi quadri. La mia preghiera è che d’ora in poi siate più desiderosi di vedere Dio nella vita quotidiana…che siate più inclini a tenere conto della Sua esistenza…a volerLo conoscere meglio…

A considerare la possibilità che Lui non solo esista, ma sia anche Creatore, Redentore e Amico.